HELP! I am gaining weight back!
Posted 06 November 2007 - 08:27 AM
This is my first post but I am desperate!
I got the surgery at the end of May 2007. I was at an all time high of 245 and lost 5 lbs on the pre-op diet.
I lost about 10 lbs. Then I had my first fill in July to 1.9/4.0 cc, and lost another 5 lbs.
As of the end August I had my 2nd fill to 2.4/4.0cc, and a little after that got down to 220.0-a loss of about another 5 lbs.
Not bad overall, a total of 25 pounds over 5 months and people were finally able to tell a little. BUT....
The last few weeks have been a nightmare with just eating! It seems the lap band restricts somethings on some days, and other days I can eat whatever I want. Some days I have ABSOLUTLEY NO restriction what so ever after the morning hours, and it feels like I am battling food just the same as I was before I even got the surgery...and not winning the battle. The band seems to work the first week or two I get home from a fill, then I can start eating a little more, each day, until I am back to eating normally again. Then I am on my own with diet and exercise, and I don't feel I have the extra TOOl of the lap band to help me at all.
I have regained 7 pounds in the last 3 weeks and I am really SCARED. I am scared that I am one of those people that the lap band IS NOT going to work for, and that in a few weeks I will be up to my old weight like I never got the band or spent the money for it! SCARED that I just wasted $8500 to be a failure on another lose-weight scheme.
Please be honest, is any one out there having the same problems with feeling that maybe this isn't working like they say it will? I have read posts on the internet about people that have lost up to 100 lbs. because they get sick when they eat too much and are FORCED to stop. I am NOT having that reaction more than a few days after the fill!
The last few months I have been following a diet and exercising (moderately I'll admit) to lose that 20 lbs, and I feel like the lap band HELPED, but it wasn't the WHOLE reason I was able to lose that weight. I watched what I ate! Every time I do get a fill, I AM forced to stop overeating, but it goes back to normal after a week or two. Somehow I doubt I can keep getting fills EVERY five pounds like I have been until I reach a 100 lbs. weight loss. That would be like 20 fills and impossible with only a 4.0 cc band.
I am frustrated because I KNOW what the doctors will say, that you have to eat right. DUH! I knew that before the surgery and from a life time of dieting, but my issue is that I eat TOO MUCH, even healthy foods, and that is where the lap band, I thought, was going to come in and help me. I KNOW HOW TO DIET, the idea behind getting the lap band was to STOP OVEREATING by being forced to eat smaller portions on those days I wanted to eat more and not diet.
I am back to old thoughts of SPENDING more money on weight watchers, diet pills, personal trainers...but to be honest, I don't have the money anymroe! Having this surgery was a HUGE step for me and I got a loan for it, I DON"T WANT to spend any more money, I felt like this was supposed to BE IT...THE ANSWER to help me get on my way. It has not been the answer i thought it was going to be. There are no fill centers near me, so I have to fly to Mexico and rent a car so each trip for a fill ends up costing about $300. That's a lot to spend for a 5 pound weight loss. I can't do that every 6 weeks!
Yes, I know that losing 20 lbs is a lot, but honestly, I HAVE done that in the past few years on my own with diet, SEVERAL TIMES, and it always stops after 20 lbs. because I start to overeat too many calories or stop the diet. I am at this point again, and gaining again, but I THOUGHT this time would be different, I thought it would be different because of the LAP BAND> I thought the lap band would force me to get to the next step of say, 25, or 30 pounds and more weight loss.
I feel like an absolute failure right now, especially because I think that I KNOW what people's reactions are when they see me (those that know about the lap band)....that its my fault I am not losing weight becuase I am still eating too much. WELL, DUH! That is why I got the lap band...to stop myself !!! And its not working. I am starting to get frustrated and more than that, EMBARRASSED to see the people who do know I got the surgery. I am not the poster-child for lap band weight loss I thought I was goign to be when I bragged to my close friends that I was doing this surgery to help me get over my usual lose 20 lbs, gain it back pattern. I feel desperate and extremely sad and a little mad that maybe, just maybe, I spent $8500 on somethign that was achievable with diet/exercise alone, since I have ONLY reached the same weight loss I reached with OUT the lap band and no more. I feel desperate and to be totally honest- I feel let-down and cheated.
Posted 06 November 2007 - 08:42 AM
Don't panic; you probably just need your band adjusted. It can take a number of fills to hit your "sweet spot" and you just aren't there yet. It's not that you are getting fills for every five pounds you lose; it's that they haven't gotten to the right fill amount yet.
First fill 1.7 cc 11/29/07
Second fill .2 cc 1.9 total 1/10/08
Third fill .4 cc 2.3 total 5/28/09
Posted 06 November 2007 - 09:15 AM
make sure you are not drinking at all with your meal and second, make sure you are eating super super slow like you are savoring every last little bite - take 40 mins to eat a meal instead of 20 mins but with the right size portion and smaller bites.
also, i know none of us want to do this, but you are going to have to count every single calorie you put in your mouth. 1200 calories a day has got to be it - no more no less.
last is the exercise, if you are eating 1200 calories a day and getting 30 to 40 mins of cardio it will slowly come off - its depressing i know but it is the truth that its like the turtle and the hare - slow and steady win the race.
finally, from personal experience, i lost 25 to 30 lbs in the first 5 to 7 months and then stalled until month 9 ... when i went to my family doctor he was very upset with me and that is when he put me on the strict 1200 calorie a day diet, made me start exercising consistantly and every single day and he also gave me a 60 day supply of Fastin (which is suppose to be the good part of phen/phen) i was upset at first because i spent $8500 to avoid having to take a food suppressint, but he told me that i had to relearn to eat and the best way to do that is to have no appetite while i become accustomed to eating like a small person. personally, i was fighting my band and pb'ing so much that i was afraid i would cause it to slip. i have since dropped another 26 lbs and i am finally starting to make the connection between how much food i need compared to what i want.
this is not the answer for everyone, but it did help me get over a plateau when i knew i didnt want to get another fill and PB more. i am not staying on the pills as they do lose their effectiveness after a month or two...so now it is back to me to do it on my own with the right band restriction, diet and exercise and yes, i did feel like i was cheating while i was on the pills!
Banded Nov 2nd, 2006
Start wt 278
Goal wt 175
1st fill in Denver 4cc in VG band 12-12-06
2nd fill at OCC now at 5cc on 01-20-07
3rd fill in Denver now at 6cc on 3-14-07
4th fill in Denver now at 7cc on 5-16-08
Current as of 7-3-08 201 lbs
77 lbs down and 26 lbs to go....
Posted 06 November 2007 - 09:17 AM
Starting wt: 318 lbs
Banded: Oct 3, 2006
Current wt: 201 lbs
1st fill: 1.4 cc
2nd fill: 2.0 cc
3rd fill: 2.4 cc
4th fill: 2.8 cc
5th fill: 3.0 cc
1st unfill: 2.4 cc
6th fill: 2.6 cc
7th fill: 2.8 cc
2nd unfill: 2.6 cc
8th fill: 2.8 cc
3rd unfill: 2.4 cc
Posted 06 November 2007 - 01:05 PM
I was banded back in July and so far, I've lost about 45 lbs. I have to admit though, that I am questioning the money spent for a band. Like I said, I've lost around 45 lbs but it has been all me. I've had two fills and another one scheduled for Friday. I am hoping I'll find my sweet spot soon cause this is getting old. I watch what I eat. (Yogurt and lean cusines) and I ride my excersize bike at least one hour a day, trying to increase everyday. I want to start feeling restriction and let the band do it's magic. I have to keep reminding myself that it is just a tool. Just a tool. Now, I'm counting on the fact that onceI hit goal, it will keep me from overeating and gaining back what I've lost. Don't know if that makes sense or not. But.............
Posted 06 November 2007 - 01:25 PM
I just had a hysterectomy and oddly now have ZERO restriction. As soon as I feel like moving around I'm headed straight in for another fill. If I had any control over food then I wouldn't have forked out big $$$ for this. Hang tight - once you get the right amount of restriction you WILL lose the weight!!
Posted 08 November 2007 - 08:35 AM
Sometimes I've recently had my 2nd adjustment... over a year and a half... It just goes to show that everyone needs a different fill schedule. Also... i dont know this for a fact but it seems like something that is true.. if you eat more than you're supposed to.. couldn't the sack of stomach above the band stretch out just like the whole stomach could before surgery? I find even though i have this thing... if i eat more... to where i'm uncomfortable.. the next time i can eat more as well. I dunno. I've only done that once and i Reeaallllly try not to do that. Although i have no medical expertise, i felt normal again after taking care to eat extra small meals for a day or so. Then i felt like i was full after eating the right size meal.
Posted 02 December 2008 - 04:21 PM
Posted 02 December 2008 - 06:37 PM
Surgery Weight: 230
11/15/08 1st fill 1.6 cc
01/10/09 2nd fill .55 cc
05/02/09 3rd fill .6 cc
06/26/09 unfill .2 cc
01/22/10 4th fill .7 cc
01/23/10 unfill .3 cc
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