Good for you! It was the best thing I have ever done. I would do it again in a heart beat! It will be a long road and not without trials. As Dr Ortiz told me and I am sure every person he has banded, "the band is a tool not a cure." If you use it correctly it will work with you if you misuse it, it will be your worse enemy. If that makes sense. I wish you the best. Don't shut your husband out. Let him in, into your world and thoughts. I am sure this is just as frustrating to him. If he is reaching out for you he must still see the true you not the outside. Sounds like he loves you and wants to be with you and chances are if he wants to be with you he wants to be there for you just as much. Put the shoe on the other foot. Would you love him less? He may be afraid of loosing you if he is trying to reach out and is getting rejected, especially if he is unaware of why. Sorry gone from suggesting to medling. I don't know you or your husband. I was severely obese when my husband and I met and married granted over the last 7yrs I have gained about 50# so I don't have the complex issues, he saw me fat and has actually grown with me to a ripe weight himself.
Again I wish you the best. Use this sight as much as you can it got me through some really rough times, I have learned a truck load!