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Oh yeah, I know I'm gonna overpack!! I am a chronic overpacker.... I can't help myself..

Smiles, my surgery date is January 29th. I have met one other person on here that is having surgery the same day and we have been emailing back and forth so at least I will know one person there!!

Good to hear... I found someone who is having surgery the day after me....Only a few days to go for you. Good Luck!!!

I never had luck with the colon cleanses but I actually take DIATOMACEOUS EARTH (FOOD GRADE) It can actually be used as dewormers for animals too. I also use it around the outside of the house for bug control. I am not recommending this as I am not a doctor but this is what both myself and my husband use. Do some research you might be suprised on what you find. It doesn't give you any cramping or immediate bathroom rush so no need to stay home.....it works over time and I just mix it in with my shake in the mornings. You can buy it at any feed store or order it online.

Here some website to get your research started:

http://wolfcreekranch1.tripod.com/defaq.html

http://www.diatomitecanada.com/fossil-shel...ceous-earth.htm

Again... I am not a doctor just letting you know what I use and what I like and it is not as nasty tasting as some of the over the counter cleanses.

Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement!!! Honestly, I am not really worried about the surgery at all. I just hate flying so badly and I didn't want to fly by myself!! (

I have psyched myself up so much for this surgery and now I'm in a panic that I'm going to forget something or overpack or something crazy!! Anyway, thank you all again and I can't wait to post my surgery experience while I'm still at the OCC and under the influence of heavy pain meds!! Good Times!!!

When is your surgery date?

maybe I will see you there I have my first fill on feb 26th

We are coming in on the 25th and leaving the 28th.... I am a little nervous. Having to quit smoking I am worried I will gain 20pds....Yikes... I just keep telling myself I can do it....

I just scheduled my surgery for Feb. 26th! I am really excited yet a little nervous...but I can't wait to start the new journey to a healthier life!

Kelly

My mom and dad went through something similar before surgery. My dad was such and ASS! When I sat down and talked to him about it he said he was worried that she was going to get skinny and leave him. Now that she has dropped 190lbs they are like teenagers, yuk..... Give him time.... Have you taken him to an informational meeting. That really helped my dad understand why it is hard for overweight people to loose and how the band works.

As for myself, it really hasn't affected my marriage other than my husband doesn't like it when I eat something that doesn't go down. He was very worried that it would limit what he was able to eat but I work really hard to make him a normal meal and I eat around that.

shy

I am attending a meeting this week, so I am still hoping he will join me and get a better understanding... But I am scheduled for Feb.26th with or without him... because this is my life and I only get to live it once and I need to do it for myself and noone else.... This forum has been very encouraging and supportive I am glad I got involved.

Thanks

I am not currently in a relationship, but my memory of something was triggered when reading this thread. About a year and a half ago, I told my then-boyfriend that I had a plan (at that time, a distant dream, now a reality!) to have lap-band surgery, and his response was, if I have this surgery, what if I start getting a lot of male attention? I didn't really think about the implications of that comment at the time, but this thread jogged that memory of his insecurity at the time. It is quite interesting, the assumptions many people make about looks, confidence, and sometimes the sabotaging behaviours I have sometimes heard about from partners who want to keep their spouses overweight, for fear they will leave them.

I don't know if it is appropriate or relevant enough to this topic, but one of the concerns I had before the surgery was what if after I lose the weight, I end up attracting shallow, superficial men who only care about my looks? I want a man who likes me for the person I am on the inside and accepts the person I am on the outside. I also wonder about what a potential partner would think once I tell him about the band.

You make a good point.... we all hope (well at least me) that our spouse or partners love us for who we are on the inside and not base love off of our looks. Life is hard enough.... but the one thing I have learned over the years of dating men... It only takes a short time to realize if a man is really into you or if there just looking for a piece of action or a trophy on there arm and vise versa..... But don't try to read into things to much when you do start dating... it could sabatoge a good thing. But just remember this journey was for yourself and no one else!

I just scheduled my surgery for Feb. 26th! I am really excited yet a little nervous...but I can't wait to start the new journey to a healthier life!

I thank God that my husband decided to have the surgery with me. I think we would have had the same issues. He once told me that I was going to get thin and leave him. That was never my intention. Now that we are losing together, I think that we both are nervous about what is going to come. We are sharing our experience and I hope that it will make us stronger. He has never pointed out anything about me that he dont like. I have told him about his big belly which I now point out is getting smaller and I am jelious. but it was all in fun. He is just glowing, he is so excited about the weight loss. It is an incredible thing to see. I do worry at times about him leaving but I know now what he was talking about. I think that marriages if they are not solid, they have a risk of having these issues. No matter if there is weight loss or not. I am hoping this journey together will bring us to a point of understanding. We have had our troubles but I know we are strong today, tomorrow who knows. Every day is a new beginnning.

I think the important part is to remember why we do this. It is not about them, it is about us. A choice to live, fat free, healthy. With or without them, that is the way it has to be. I choose life.

Thank you for the support! It is hard, my husband is one of the lucky ones who don't have a wieght problem he is a black belt in Karate and also teaches it. He can eat anything (and he eats a lot) and not gain a pound. He is very well built and doesn't have an oz. of fat on him. Sometimes yes I wonder why he picked me to marry. A part of me knows that my wieght bothers him sometimes even though he doesn't say it but I can tell. But he has always been supportive of me.... till now.

Thanks... I will try to keep my head up!

Okay, I am sure many of you are married or in relationships and reading things on line I read a lot of things resulting in marriages ending after WLS. Has anyone faced issues in there personal life? My husband and I have been together 4 years (2 years marriage in Feb) and I have been the same weight since we met.... yes I have had my share of yo-yo diets up and down..... And he constantly tells me he loves me for me but yes is concern about my health. The decision to get the lap band done was made by both of us but lately I feel like his mind has changed. Even made the comment to me tonight that I am "taking the easy way out" to me not only was it hurtful but devastating to here him say that. Needless to say it turned into a big fight... I was not always over weight but when I got pregnant I gained it and never lost it....and I try to explain that until you are overwieght you have no idea what it is like or how it feels and how hard it can be to get it off even with diet and excersice. He left for a hotel..... he has never done that before... I was heart broken to hear such cruel words come out of his mouth... I wasn't doing this surgery to be skinny... I was doing it to save my life and now I feel like what I read is true... and that this decision will ruin my marriage. But I also know that I have a wonderful son who needs a mother and this is something I need to do for myself not anyone else.

So I am just curious to know if anyone else has had relationship issues before or after surgery that can give me some insight on it all!

Thanks

Thanks for the note..... Well I should be at work but since he didn't come home to watch our son I had to call in sick. I was overwieght when we met, maybe it is the fear that I might get skinny and leave him... I am not sure what it is but I have read it happens a lot after WLS i think the estimate was around 25% which I think is pretty high.

Thanks for the support : )

Okay, I am sure many of you are married or in relationships and reading things on line I read a lot of things resulting in marriages ending after WLS. Has anyone faced issues in there personal life? My husband and I have been together 4 years (2 years marriage in Feb) and I have been the same weight since we met.... yes I have had my share of yo-yo diets up and down..... And he constantly tells me he loves me for me but yes is concern about my health. The decision to get the lap band done was made by both of us but lately I feel like his mind has changed. Even made the comment to me tonight that I am "taking the easy way out" to me not only was it hurtful but devastating to here him say that. Needless to say it turned into a big fight... I was not always over weight but when I got pregnant I gained it and never lost it....and I try to explain that until you are overwieght you have no idea what it is like or how it feels and how hard it can be to get it off even with diet and excersice. He left for a hotel..... he has never done that before... I was heart broken to hear such cruel words come out of his mouth... I wasn't doing this surgery to be skinny... I was doing it to save my life and now I feel like what I read is true... and that this decision will ruin my marriage. But I also know that I have a wonderful son who needs a mother and this is something I need to do for myself not anyone else.

So I am just curious to know if anyone else has had relationship issues before or after surgery that can give me some insight on it all!

Thanks

It was definitely a weird feeling being in TJ but not un-safe at all! We only went from the border to the clinic to the hotel and visa versa and all via the OCC shuttles so we were totally fine. The only scary thing was trying to cross the street without getting run over!!

One weird thing I did read in the hotel's guest information book was to not take a taxi off the street only out front of the hotel or if you call for one. My husband and I were out walking around the street outside the Lucerna and the taxi's driving by all slowed down honked at us, but we didn't need to use any taxis anyway so it didn't matter.

Just be safe and be aware and you'll be fine! The OCC and Lucerna staff were awesome!!

I am up in the White Mountains......and love it here I will let you know my date as soon as I get it.... to me the sooner the better... I am not very good at waiting.

I myself have the same issues... I was on metformin for awhile but had trouble with it my husband called them my "witch" pills. I have been lucky that I have not had to go back on them but I completely stopped drinking soda about a year ago... I still can't keep weight off on my own it always comes right back. I also have huge issues with facial hair and hormone levels. Both my doctor and a special feel that birth control or anything else wouln't help that it is all weight related. I agree because last year when I lost 50 pds (i did gain it back) I notice my facial hair was not as bad, it lightened and I did not need to bleach or shave it everyday. Losing even 15 pounds can help. Since my insurance has a exclusion on weight loss surgery I will be going to TJ. I had my PCP do some lab works to check for blood diseases (I have blood clots that run in the family) and I just got those results back on Friday so he says I am good to go that I had no pre existing conditions that would increase my risk of blood clots. It was a big concern my grandfather died from it and both my mom and sister are onn meds for it. So I was very glad to hear I was good to go.... So I am calling on Monday to set up my surgery date!

Just know you are not alone out there.... Many of us face the same issues! To me its the facial hair that bothers me more than anything... makes you feel not so girly sometimes...

Good luck!!

I am in Arizona but it is still a 4.5 hour drive from my place to the airport in Phoenix and less than an hour flight. I think the driving time is what worries me more than anything. I guess if I am feeling bad after the flight we can crash at my Dad's place in the valley (not like I have to get back to work right away or anything). Although sometimes your own bed is the best remedy!

I am glad to here things went well and you made it home. Can't wait to hear about your progress!

Thank you... that is good to hear, I have been there many of times but that was years and years ago....it's funny how you worry more as you get older!

I was lucking to already know 3 people who had there lap bands done in TJ so I have already decided to get it done and plan on calling next week to set up a surgery date. My question is has anyone had any trouble while in TJ? I know they currently have alerts set for some of the border areas including TJ. My husband and I would like to go before things get worse but are curious to know of any trouble any one might of had during there trip? Also does anyone recommend a time frame to stay.... I have read a few post where people stated they wish they stated longer for the travel back was miserable? What is the average stay?

Any suggestions or information would be greatly appreciated.