Thank you for the response also:) I have suggested these sites to her, but she has no interest. There is even a support group/follow up program in the area that I found for her, but she won't go to that either. It's like she wants to pretend she never had a lapband at all.
She's not anemic (had that workup at her yearly physical). Other than when you were defficient in vits, did you have the same energy levels as before you were banded? I'm not sure if it's the caloric restriction making her tired. Again, not being banded myself I don't know what's normal. I've dieted, but never to 900-1000 calories a day. I would imagine that would make someone tired at first, but then your body would adapt.
She does take vitamins, but other than that seems very unwilling to do anything to improve her health. I think that's part of why I am getting so frustrated with her. She's taken on a surgical alteration which you all obviously seem to know requires a HUGE lifestyle change but won't make the necessary changes to feel ok and won't even seek out information about what "normal" is after this procedure. She'll tell me all her problems but she won't call and ask her doctor if that's normal or what she should do in the meantime. It seems like she believes that as long as she's losing weight, nothing else matters. My mother had gastric bypass in the 90s and went through fewer problems. I never anticipated all this with my friend. I'm beginning to think her weight was never her real problem and it was just a symptom of greater psychological issues. Depression would certainly explain all her symptoms (weight problems, lethargy, inactivity, loss of interest in the world, impatience with others, snapping over little things). I'm tempted to broach that with her, but I keep telling myself this might be completely normal and explainable because of the lapband and I should stop being a mini Oprah/DrPhil .