I just had mine done here in Nevada, the nurses and surgeon were great and everything only cost around 8k (in reno).
Fortunately I have insurance and my copay was only 250 bucks. I did have to pay additional 125 for the dietician and 300 for the psych (I found out from a friend later that he got both of those done for 1/2 the price, I shoulda talked to him first) so my total out of pocket so far is just under 1k.
I have told a few of my closest friends and my immediate family (kinda hard to keep it secret from people when your sister in law works in the recovery ward at that hospital ) but I am keeping it a secret from some of my long time friends that live back east. I want to surprise them when I come home for Christmas next year. I am not hiding it from shame, just to see the look on their faces.
I think I screwed up today, on the way home I ate a small (half of a MacDonalds french fry sized) piece of fish and now I feel chest pain and no desire to eat, but I can drink ok. I will stick with broth for the next few days I think.
Thank god for my wife, without her support this would be a near impossible task, I hope you have good luck with your surgery and hopefully you can find a buddy that has had the procedure to share info with and support. Several of my co-workers have had this done which is what made me decide to do it, so I have a large built in support group.
Sorry if this post is rambling, I just had a shot of roxicet for pain as where I have my valve is very swollen and sore.
I will keep you guys posted as things go on.
Starting weight 324.5
two week liquid diet weight day of surgery: 309.5
day after surgery 312.5 (still can't figure this out, maybe due to lack of BM for 3 days)