On the pitty-pot today....

[ValleyGirl]

I don't know why it's so important to me what other people think, but I'm astonished that afetr losing 45 pounds NOBODY has noticed! I haven't told many people about surgery so that they are not "watching me" but it's like I'm completely invisible. In the past when I've been on a diet, everybody is always commenting on how much weight I've lost but lately I haven't heard a single comment...not from people at work, not from the moms at the school, ballet, skating etc! 45 freaking pounds and NOTHING!!! I even asked my husband if he can tell and he shrugged and said, "not really, but I didn't notice when you gained it either". Bless him for that, lol!

The few friends who know about surgery say they can see it a bit but that I always dressed so well and was so good at hiding my weight that I still look pretty much the same to them too- that they didn't see anything wrong with me before anyway. That's a nice thing for them to say but it's not what I want to hear. I want to hear, "look how skinny you're getting"....."look how tiny you are"....."lose any more and you're going to dissapear" hahahaha. Seriously, why do I care? I do, though. I've been hiding under this fat for so long. I want to be noticed now!!! Thanks for letting me vent.....again!

Sabrina:)

[Lindsay]

people are potatoes.

i didn't hear that at all during my first weight loss phase.

even though i had lost over 75lbs!

girl, we'll tell you here.

you DO look freakin' amazing!

=D>

and i hope you're taking your progress pictures to remind yourself of this.

Remember:

you're losing weight to be HEALTHY.

And most importantly, you're doing this for YOU.

[AngieB]

I don't know why it's so important to me what other people think, but I'm astonished that afetr losing 45 pounds NOBODY has noticed! I haven't told many people about surgery so that they are not "watching me" but it's like I'm completely invisible. In the past when I've been on a diet, everybody is always commenting on how much weight I've lost but lately I haven't heard a single comment...not from people at work, not from the moms at the school, ballet, skating etc! 45 freaking pounds and NOTHING!!! I even asked my husband if he can tell and he shrugged and said, "not really, but I didn't notice when you gained it either". Bless him for that, lol!

The few friends who know about surgery say they can see it a bit but that I always dressed so well and was so good at hiding my weight that I still look pretty much the same to them too- that they didn't see anything wrong with me before anyway. That's a nice thing for them to say but it's not what I want to hear. I want to hear, "look how skinny you're getting"....."look how tiny you are"....."lose any more and you're going to dissapear" hahahaha. Seriously, why do I care? I do, though. I've been hiding under this fat for so long. I want to be noticed now!!! Thanks for letting me vent.....again!

Sabrina:)

Hi Sabrina! I am amazed that no one has said anything to you. Normally it takes at least 20 lbs for me before people begin making comments, so that is strange. However, it does say something about your mad dressing skills! Girl you must be great at complimenting your shape!

You do look great, and to me you do look like a skinny chickky! The truth is we do care about what others think. We may be doing this for us but it is nice to get the compliments that keep us going. Not that we need cheer leaders but hey! Encouragement does help!

You look fabulous darling, just fabulous! Keep it up! Like someones siggy on here says on here nothing tastes as good as skinny feels!

[Silverstarz76]

I don't know why it's so important to me what other people think, but I'm astonished that afetr losing 45 pounds NOBODY has noticed! I haven't told many people about surgery so that they are not "watching me" but it's like I'm completely invisible. In the past when I've been on a diet, everybody is always commenting on how much weight I've lost but lately I haven't heard a single comment...not from people at work, not from the moms at the school, ballet, skating etc! 45 freaking pounds and NOTHING!!! I even asked my husband if he can tell and he shrugged and said, "not really, but I didn't notice when you gained it either". Bless him for that, lol!

The few friends who know about surgery say they can see it a bit but that I always dressed so well and was so good at hiding my weight that I still look pretty much the same to them too- that they didn't see anything wrong with me before anyway. That's a nice thing for them to say but it's not what I want to hear. I want to hear, "look how skinny you're getting"....."look how tiny you are"....."lose any more and you're going to dissapear" hahahaha. Seriously, why do I care? I do, though. I've been hiding under this fat for so long. I want to be noticed now!!! Thanks for letting me vent.....again!

Sabrina:)

Hi Sabrina,

I could have written that. I know how you feel. I have lost 60 lbs and I don't hear much. I have had a few people tell me oh looks like you lost a bit of weight.. And I am like yeah 60LBS!!! They don't believe me. They don't think I have lost that much. Either they think I I did not weight that much or they have doubt that I could... Not too sure.

My husband is like yours, when I met him I weighed 200lbs. When I decided on surgery I was 295. I never ever told him how much I weighed till I weighed less then him. He said he loves me for me and never seen the weight go back on.. We are lucky to have husbands like that.

I always try and notice the small things. I was on my way home yesterday from my fill and I was winked at and checked out by a guy.. Very good looking one I might add. But before I don't think he would have looked at me once let alone several times as he did. My mom said she noticed alot of people looking and smiling at me where before they didn't.

Also my passport picture has really changed which is nice becasue one security person said I had to get my picture updated.. :-) It was taken 2 months ago..

I think the people that are around us alot don't notice the gradual changes in us.. But stranges will if hey see a picture or someone who does not see you very often.

You are gorgeous.. And I will tell you.. YOU LOOK GREAT!!!!!!

Julie

[nicolek]

Hi

I had a few comments but it was not until I would show them a before picture

that they could really notice the difference.

Congrats on your loss so far.

[BrandNewDawn]

Valley Girl,

I have lost 50 pounds and I think maybe 2 or 3 people have actually said something to me about it. And, I lost 30 pounds before anybody said anything at all.

You look great. Keep up the good work.

Dawn

[fatfreeme]

I completely understand how you are feeling. For what its worth. I can TOTALLY notice the difference. Your face is SOOOO thin! And yes you do look amazing!

I have a lot of weight to lose and know that its going to take A LOT of weight loss for me to have a noticable difference. While I am okay with that, complements are always nice.

Keep up the great work!

Darling you look FABULOUS!

[SlimColaGirl]

I'm sure many notice, but don't say anything because they're afraid. I lost 60 lbs on a diet before and it was totally noticeable. Only one person said they noticed, and that was after "I" brought it up. :-) You're looking awesome so don't worry about it.

[Smiley]

Have you changed up the clothes you are wearing? Sometimes we caught up in wearing things that too big or baggy because we don't want to spend money on new stuff which does make it kind of difficult to tell that weight has been lost. Have you taken pictures and compared them side by side?

I had a few people make comments when I had lost 45 lbs., but they were mainly people who knew. I have found out since then other people were talking, they just were not making comments or asking me, which fine since they were mainly co-workers who did not know and I would have come up with some lame explanation anyway. Heck, I am 13 months out and 66 lbs. down and I still have not told them how I have lost the weight other than eating less and exercise.

[ValleyGirl]

I feel bad now, like I was fishing for compliments. You guys have made my day, though, so if I was, it worked. You've all made me feel better. Thanks!!!

Sabrina:)

[jhawkchick75]

Ditto to a lot of what has been said. Keep in mind, those folks see you every day pretty much so it's hard for them to see it. Heck, it is hard for me to see it in myself until I look at pictures. Also, at least in my situation I know many people notice, but like was said before they don't say it to you. For me, that is for two reasons. One, are those folks that do not want to offend you or embarrass you by asking if you have lost weight. I've had a lot of people at work tell me that others are asking them if i've lost but aren't saying anything to me. Then, there are the second group of folks that have seen me lose and gain weight about a million times and probably don't say anything b/c to be quite honest they probably are figuring i'll just gain it back again. That sounds bad, but I wouldn't blame them one bit for that. They don't know the level of dedication I have this time so I really don't hate them for thinking that way. I would too if I were in their shoes.

We all want others to notice - it's human nature so don't feel bad at all for that. I was with a group of friends that I hadn't seen in a while and not one comment. I'm not gonna lie it hurt! But you know I have to remind myself that I am doing this for ME and I have to relish the NSV's and the knowing that I have lost almost 45lbs and appreciate that.

You are doing a great job! Keep up the good work!