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Ahhh Lap-Band ...I'am in need of serious Advice


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My Name is Hannah i am 18 yrs. and by Thursday January 22 2009 ill have a date for march I've been apart of the lap-band program at Morgan Stanley Children's Hospital of NewYork-Presbyterian/Columbia Center for Adolescent Bariatric Surgery.ages(14-17) it is a very wonderful program. There are many things that are apart of this program for example you have to see many doctors many more than the normal person would for this surgery and because when i joined the program i wasn't 18 and my mom who is helpful she took me too every appointment but about a month ago my dad who is very very mean and heartless got word that i was planing on surgery he doesn't understand why i want this surgery ...i've been in a never-ending battle with my body and body image since a was 9 yrs. old i am now 313 this is the lowest i've been in a yr. the largest being 330 and i have not gain in a yr. which is good for me because last yr. (2007) i gain a total of 60 lbs. so im proud of myself i just don't have the support of my father.. he wants me to lose it but without banding and i have tried that but nothing has happen i am also afraid of what will happen to our relationship after it.. maybe i should just tell him that im not getting it and get because i feel like i am 18 and i WILL GET THE SURGERY WITH OR WITHOUT HIS SUPPORT DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME (SORRY FOR THE CAPS) :D

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Hannah my dear I feel so bad for you. I am sorry to hear about your situation with your father and cannot imagine how you feel. It sounds like you have a great mother and I suggest that you speak to her about this and/or the doctors at the hospital.

Having elective surgery is a big decision and you have your whole life ahead of you so take your time. Life is full of ups and downs - these are how we develop our character and learn to make well thought-out decisions.

I would wait a while until you have had time to think this all through and you have given your father time to digest the idea of your having surgery. Then approach him again, discuss it with him but before you do just image him smiling with you at the end of your conversation (visualizing the outcome works!).

You are doing great with managing the weight (better than I did last year) so pat yourself on the back! You should be proud because you are managing a problem that many people never conquer.

Good luck, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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My Name is Hannah i am 18 yrs. and by Thursday January 22 2009 ill have a date for march I've been apart of the lap-band program at Morgan Stanley Children's Hospital of NewYork-Presbyterian/Columbia Center for Adolescent Bariatric Surgery.ages(14-17) it is a very wonderful program. There are many things that are apart of this program for example you have to see many doctors many more than the normal person would for this surgery and because when i joined the program i wasn't 18 and my mom who is helpful she took me too every appointment but about a month ago my dad who is very very mean and heartless got word that i was planing on surgery he doesn't understand why i want this surgery ...i've been in a never-ending battle with my body and body image since a was 9 yrs. old i am now 313 this is the lowest i've been in a yr. the largest being 330 and i have not gain in a yr. which is good for me because last yr. (2007) i gain a total of 60 lbs. so im proud of myself i just don't have the support of my father.. he wants me to lose it but without banding and i have tried that but nothing has happen i am also afraid of what will happen to our relationship after it.. maybe i should just tell him that im not getting it and get because i feel like i am 18 and i WILL GET THE SURGERY WITH OR WITHOUT HIS SUPPORT DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME (SORRY FOR THE CAPS) :D

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Go for it kid! I've been banded for almost two years now.. It was the smartest thing I've ever done. I'm 55 years old now and I just wish they would have had this way back when I was 18. Do it because YOU want to do it.

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Dolittle is 100% right! Do it for YOU, not your dad, or your mom, but you! You won't regret it. It can only help you to live a long and healthy life! If you don't do it, you will be filled with regrets and what if's. As long as you have done your research and you are comfortable with your decision, then don't let anything stand in your way!

Oh, and I truly don't think you will find a single soul on earth who is SORRY for having it done!

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