Jump to content
  • entries
  • comments
  • views

Family, Fears, Faith



Well this is 3rd day preop and I havent stuck to it at all.

Today has been an emotional roller coaster. My inlaws are not going to support me in getting the lap band. They feel it is dangerous and expensive, and an excuse for not having the self disipline to follow thru with a Biblical way of eating. I know I have these issues that is why I need the lap band. To put me back in control of this mess! My mom is willint to fly to Oregon from NewYork to watch the kids. She has seen my battle with obesity and knows I have done everything in my will power to kick this gluttony.

I know God can do all things, he can even make this body healthy, but it is I who continues to fail. I am sick of the constant battle for years and years. this decision was not made lightly or without a cost. The details are extensive and unneeded.

Are there any christian lapbanders out there?!?!?

Is the lapband an excape for those who lack in faith?

How much can a person endure?


Recommended Comments


I am Pentecostal. I know my bible, pretty good! I read out of a NKJV. I'm sorry that your in laws are not supporting you. But your Mom is. Your mom has seen & knows what you feel like, What you go through. She is willing to help you, & That’s wonderful. Your in-laws don't truly know how you struggled and how tired you are. How you feel, maybe even depressed an embarrassed at times. I know it’s how I feel. Think how much better it will improve your health and add years to your life.

Yes we are to trust in the LORD. I’m sure you prayed on it, So then

( Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV) Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;

in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

God created the doctors and gave them wisdom to even create The LAP BAND. And Jesus can heal the body, He can do all things, but He also gave man the wisdom to create medicine.

You are not taking the easy way out! You need to cast out this guilt! Cause it's not of God! You pray an ask the LORD to give you his peace with this. Your in - laws are human only God knows what’s best for you... If you ask me it kindda sounds like they are judging you, & they should not judge you, if that’s what they are doing. They should pray that the LORD keep you safe & all go well.

You can’t worry about them, Yes it would be nice to have their support BUT you don't maybe you should pray for them. The bottomline is - You need to take care of yourself..........And Pray asking Jesus to give you his peace.......

I'll be there 19th. Band the 20th..........

God Bless You

Link to comment

thank you for your reply.

It is very uplifting and encouraging to know there others who are in faith and becoming victorious to live the lifestyle God has intended for us with the help of the lapband. After I stood up and told them I feel this is what I belong doing I felt such a relief and have been at peace about it since. I think it was a test of faith that I " Having done All, Stand" .

My husband came home last night and announced we are going camping this weekend with my inlaws. I am going to be in TJ on the 18th and surgery on the 19th. Dont get me wrong, they are good people, and I love them dearly. this is the only reason thier thoughts matter to me. I think this is thier way of intervention. I am just going to ask them to leave it alone and lets enjoy the weekend. I will be taking my car so if I need to leave early I will.

Do you have any of these type of family hurtles to overcome?

Where are you getting your Lapband done at?

Maybe we could meet up?

Link to comment

Dr. Ortiz is doing my surgery I'm staying @ the Marriott till 23, I'm taking an extra day, My sons are 18 & 15 so I don't have much to worry about. A feww other ladies that are going down too, Check the MAY surgery fill thread..........

My husband wasn't supportive at all, But, My family understands they were a bit worried about Mexico and having it done there, But once I showed them & explained to them everything everyone if fine with it. My husband has gotten over it, Still wishes I had it done in the states, Oh BTW I'm from NY. Long Island.... Where is your mom flying out of I'm out of JFK

One of my fav's

Ecclesiastes 3

Everything Has Its Time

1 To everything there is a season,

A time for every purpose under heaven:

2 A time to be born,

And a time to die;

A time to plant,

And a time to pluck what is planted;

3 A time to kill,

And a time to heal;

A time to break down,

And a time to build up;

4 A time to weep,

And a time to laugh;

A time to mourn,

And a time to dance;

5 A time to cast away stones,

And a time to gather stones;

A time to embrace,

And a time to refrain from embracing;

6 A time to gain,

And a time to lose;

A time to keep,

And a time to throw away;

7 A time to tear,

And a time to sew;

A time to keep silence,

And a time to speak;

8 A time to love,

And a time to hate;

A time of war,

And a time of peace.

The God-Given Task

9 What profit has the worker from that in which he labors? 10 I have seen the God-given task with which the sons of men are to be occupied. 11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also He has put eternity in their hearts, except that no one can find out the work that God does from beginning to end.

12 I know that nothing is better for them than to rejoice, and to do good in their lives, 13 and also that every man should eat and drink and enjoy the good of all his labor—it is the gift of God.

14 I know that whatever God does,

It shall be forever.

Nothing can be added to it,

And nothing taken from it.

God does it, that men should fear before Him.

15 That which is has already been,

And what is to be has already been;

And God requires an account of what is past.

Injustice Seems to Prevail

16 Moreover I saw under the sun:

Inthe place of judgment,

Wickedness was there;

And in the place of righteousness,

Iniquity was there.

17 I said in my heart,

“ God shall judge the righteous and the wicked,

For there is a time there for every purpose and for every work.”

18 I said in my heart, “Concerning the condition of the sons of men, God tests them, that they may see that they themselves are like animals.” 19 For what happens to the sons of men also happens to animals; one thing befalls them: as one dies, so dies the other. Surely, they all have one breath; man has no advantage over animals, for all is vanity. 20 All go to one place: all are from the dust, and all return to dust. 21 Who knows the spirit of the sons of men, which goes upward, and the spirit of the animal, which goes down to the earth?[a] 22 So I perceived that nothing is better than that a man should rejoice in his own works, for that is his heritage. For who can bring him to see what will happen after him?

Link to comment

THANK YOU! For sharing the Scripture that has touched your heart. The Word is so uplifting.

My mom is flying out of Syracuse. she lives in Newark Valley

Link to comment

I dont know what time will be available but if you would like to connect you can give me what name to ask for at the marriott and I will try. As you can see my name is LEAH WEBSTER (CREATIVE sign in name huh. :) I just like to keep things simple )

Dr. Ramos Kelly is doing mine at the Angeles Hospital in Tijuana, Mexico. I will be staying at Camino Real Hotel.

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Create New...