So after my husband's nice morning comment yesterday about how he will still love me when I am skinny, he left for work, and he didn't come home...all day...till 11pm. I didn't ask him where he'd been or anything at all, but this morning he started talking, apologizing...blah blah blah...telling me he missed talking to me, that he was so sorry for mistreating me, that he wanted to rebuild our relationship...I always let him off the hook so easily...I am so weak! But I hate holding grudges...so I caved...I was starting to feel better and I asked him if he told anyone about my lap band. He said he told his daughter (my stepdaughter who I love and respect, but is the LAST person I would want to know)...I cant even put into words how upset I am!!! I want to cry, but I am so tired of his infidelity and just plain self-centerredness that I don't even have any tears left...just a really empty, achy feeling inside. Three weeks ago, after I told him it was really important to me that nobody know, he told my 10 year old daughter that I had surgery in Mexico...I difused it so she doesn't know, and chewed him out...at that time he told me I should have kept it a secret from him, he didn't want to know anything about it and was not going to be supportive. I was hurt that I don't have his support but I was VERY CLEAR that I absolutely don't want any one else knowing, not matter how he feels about it...I got really upset then, and I know he understood that I didn't want him telling anyone, that he was sworn to secrecy...but since he disapproves, he just won't keep his mouth shut!!! He HAD to have someone to commiserate with and so he told his daughter...who will never look at me the same. I am soooo hurt, I can't trust him at all...he says he wants to be my friend but he disrespects my privacy and betrays me by hanging out God knows where all night, for the last 5 nights, telling my loved ones my secrets who have no business knowing...I hate him. I am so hurt, disappointed, and angry. I yelled at him and told him what a jerk he was...he said he was sorry, but then he said "that's just not right". There's no getting through to him. I don't like him anymore.