stormy

So does anyone know how many people are coming and we are still at my sisters place right (Anita's Diamondback Restraurant)? I just want to make sure I didn't miss anything.

I sent my paperwork in for Hubby and I to the Olympia place yesterday, they should be calling me. I swear if they talk to me like that, I will tear them a new one. We are going to spend a lot of money there. I am very nervous about this first fill. After what Julie went through, I am scarred to get over filled even though they are not that far away, I dont want to have to go back. I just hope we get it right the first time. Since I only have a 4cc band, they can't put that much in the first time. My hubby has 10cc, I wonder what he will get. He says he can eat everything with no problem. I wonder if he is being honest. I had some problem with chicken, he said he did not.

I too thought of going back to TJ and basically we are paying around the same. Because of what the airfare and hotel would have been. But I just can't take that time off and if something happened, I dont have time to deal with phone calls not being returned or whatever issue they had. I really need someone close by. So all and all, I think for me and hubby, this is the way to go. I hear they are good. If they are rude to you tell them off!! your money is good anywhere and they better respect you cause you are paying right? I hate mean people. Anyway, I hope to see you on the 8th, I think I am getting my fill after that for sure cause I want to eat on that day.

I hear what all of you are saying and thank you so much for responding. Trust me, I will never eat like I did. There is no way I would allow it. Gone are the days of sitting in front of the TV with a bucket of ribs and potato salad and buns. Now if I even consider a rib, it will be one, not 7. It has also been amazing to see the way my husband eats now. I am so proud of him. We remind eachother daily that we need to be careful. The pizza I had was not two big pieces but I think one would have been good. I could have stopped with that, I think I was just excited that it didn't hurt. I also found that I could eat rice and keep it down, so I made a really good chicken bowl receipe, that was about 1/1 cup, hubby loved it. I need to figure out how to get more fiber in my diet. I used to take these fiber capsules, I can't take them anymore. I may have to get chewables. The one thing I like is I am drinking more water now than I ever did. That is very good for my system. I discovered these odwalla drinks, I am hooked. Once I get a good diet down, it will be ok. I will be losing. I got on the scale today and it said I lost two pounds. I know that is not much, but I will take it. I will schedule my fill, hopefully tomorrow in advance. I love this site, you guys are awsume. If you have any ideas for quick and easy meals, definately let me know. Thanks

I think I have over eatten a couple of times. I am just not sure. I stopped when I felt full. but now that you said to pull out the measuring cup. I better do that. did you say 1/4 cup. Wow, that is not much. I better read that again. I had some cereal this morning and that is about what I had but the other night I had two pieces of pizza and then a bite of a cinnamin stick. I was full. I am also having a problem with not drinking while I eat. Sometimes I can do it and sometimes I can't. I take little sips but after I am done eating about half hour, I am drinking again. I just can't stop myself. Right now I am very deydrated because I am sick and my throat is real dry. It hurts to not drink. Maybe I should go back on liquids until I get well. I need fluids bad. My son is sick too and he wont eat at all. I have all my paperwork done for my fill, I just have to fax it in and then they will schedule me. I am figuring the second week in November for the fill. hubby and I will take a day off and drive to Olympia Washington to get it done under flouro. I hope I like the clinic. I am going to talk to hubby tonight about using the measuring cup idea. We both dont want to go back into old habits. Thanks guys for the information. We need to keep our eye on the ball.

Please go here:

http://www.lapbandforum.com/index.php?showforum=21

And watch Dr. O's videos.

Best,

Lisa

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So my surgery was on Sept 19th and here I am now back to eating. As long as a chew well, I can eat almost anything. I guess that means I wont be losing anything. I still can not over eat cause I get full fast but it just seems strange. How do you know when it is time to get a fill? I was thinking like the 3d week of November but I am not sure if that is right. I just dont want to stop losing weight, it was working and now it seems I am at a stand still. The whole thing has been interesting, figuring out what is safe and what is not. I have some paperwork to do and then we found a place do go under flouro. I am scarred I stretched my pouch. I hope I didnt hurt it. That is scarry.

I finally got that Picasa software figured out, but I have a lot left to learn. I love it, it is great software. I am going to use it for all kinds of stuff including the side by sides. i would suggest it to anyone. Thanks for letting me know about it.

Keep in touch Dolittle and take care of yourself.

Sorry been gone, just wanted to check in and let you all know I am still alive. I woke up Thursday with a sore throat and bad body aches. I had nightmares all night and was up every hour. I am completely exsausted. I have not got my flu shot yet so I am worried that it has hit me. I am also worried about my eating, I know when I get sick, I tend to want to eat. It depends on how bad I feel. Last night I had 3 pieces of pizza. I think I over ate. I wasn't in pain or anything. I just think that is too much. Maybe I have stretched this thing out. Anyhow, I plan on staying in bed most of the weekend. I do have to take my son for his evaluation at hippo therapy but other than that, I have nothing planned. So sleep is for me. I dont really have time for this. I have been feeling good for so long and then BOOM, the bug got me. I sure hope I can get well enough to go get my flu shot, I dont want another year of being sick. Anyhow, other than being sick things are going ok. Hubby is losing fast, I am jelious. My time will come, I hope.

stormy,

thanks for this post. =D> Yes we all have all read about eating slow and chewing well but not really understood. I am starting solid foods here in a couple days and sooooo looking forward to this day. But man, it sounds like it wasn't as an enjoyable event as you antisipated it to be.

thanks for sharing this with us all. This post may help me when solids come my way, If I can only remember, SMALL BITS too.

Rod

Definately dont start off with chicken like I did, bad idea. Mashed potatos was good, they go down easy.

I had spagetti tonight and it went down good. I made it with macaroni noodes instead of spagetti because they are smaller. I am full and I feel a sort of pressure in my chest so I am full, maybe fuller than I should be but I did stop when I felt that. I think chicken is very hard on the system. Meat is kinda hard I think. Thank you all for responding. I definatly need the help of experts out there, cause this is all new to me. Also I found that I can still eat my salads, thank goodness, they go down well too. YAHOO. I will figure it out, I know it takes time. It is kinda scarry at first.

Oh my god, this is so crazy.The serious pain I have felt. Reality just slapped me in the face. I got back in solids and what extreme pain I have had to live through. I think I know what it is now. I take big bites. Yes I chew them up but they are big, so that doesn't matter when it goes down. It hurts like hell. Where did I learn to eat this way. I am going to have to learn all over again and my head is not getting it until the pain comes. I went back on slim fast today. I was freaking hungry. But I had a peice of chicken and it did not go well. I wonder how long it will take me to learn to do this right. I always have taken big bites. I even take big drinks. I feel so stupid. I hope I didnt hurt anything. I am so nervous now. I have never felt that kind of pain. It is like getting a big huge pill stuck. How terrible. It kinda makes me sad, what if it is always like this. I can't take it. For now on, I am going to cut everying up really small and eat it that way. No more big bites and we will see how it goes but for today, since it hurt. I am having my slim fast. Wow, I never thought it would be like this. I guess the peices are going to have to be really small. I didnt really understand that. DAH! I get it now. PAIN!

Julie are you still going to help plan the get together? I dont see people doing the poll, or has that changed? What exactly is the plan with this. Dont bail out now, we need you. I understand your need for balance, trust me but I would hate to not see you on here or to be able to keep in touch. Will you be checking in daily?

We can have rice? I remember reading somewhere that they said no rice. I will check my stuff again. I bet it was the skin that did it. I wont eat skin ever again, it hurt. I am trying to eat healthy but I think the excitement of being able to eat took over for a minute. I can't wait to go to the store again and get some lettuce and vegies. I went and got some corn on the cob today, I haven't had that in years. I can't wait. It is nice to have only small meals. I think we are doing ok so far. I will be more careful. Thanks for responding.

Am I not chewing enough? It seems like I chew the hell out of it but I still feel this pain as it goes down. I have to stop in my tracks, then I am not sure if I should start again. I realize it has only been two days of eating. But is this normal? Maybe I am just nervous, but I had some chicken maybe it was the skin. I am ok now but it hurt for about 3 seconds and I thought something was stuck there for a minute so I drank something and that can right back up. Yuck. I wont do that again. I guess I need to learn how to eat. Maybe I am eating too fast. I dont think I am but I think I may be doing something wrong. Any advise would be helpful. Thanks

Wow, that is, wow. I know my marriage is not that great. but I will not live in a marriage where I can not express how I feel or even communicate. At that point, I am outta here! I have told my husband two times already that I was going to leave him if he did not straighten up. I was completely serious. Life is to short to put up with a bunch of crap. My husband is a great dad, great provider, an all around great person but he has a bad attitude at times. He does not think well of himself and he gets angry alot and yells. I have no idea why he does this, but I flat out tell him to knock it off. He started getting treatment for ADD and it has helped alot but he still has no patience and at times is down right nasty. He doesn't even know he does it. I have to put him in his place. Then he is fine. He never curses at me, has never called me names and has never touched me in a bad way. I would say were we are lacking is in the bedroom, mostly because we were so fat. There is no passion when you are trying to find a way to even be together because you are so big. It is terrible. He got so big that I didn't even want him touching me, why bother. Phsyically we have lost the connection. I am hoping with the weight loss it will come back. Even though I have to put him in his place, we still talk, we are friends. I feel like he is my partner. I tell him he is may partner in crime. HA! I am not sure he is my soul mate but I feel safe with him. I wish there were more men out there like him, then women would not have to live in bad relationships. I am not saying that all women are in bad relationships. I am saying that if you can't be who you are, then get out, that is just my opinion.

So i have been on my own now for 1 week. It has been wonderful. I feel so independant. My husband and i talk at least 2 times a day and we have gotten along all week. BUT- Tonght I am a bit hurt. As I was talking to him on the phone today at about 4:30 he told me that our kids were going to spend the night at a friend of ours who is going thru a divorce. SHE is absolutely beautiful. She once dated a Lou diamond Phillips. anyway, I thought that would be cool cause she just moved into the area with her brother (who is in California, moving his stuff here to South dakota) My kids and her kids get along great. She is a dear girl, she really is. I had to call my husband at about 7:00 to ask a question and it was sooooo loud in the background. I asked if the kids changed their minds if they did not want to spend the night at her house and he said no, they were still going to but they had a BBQ at his house before. i asked him why he did not tell me there was a BBQ and he just said. Well....I don't know. So supposedly we are supposed to be trying to work this out and in the meantime he is BBQing with a single gorgeous woman. He really does not see the harm in this. he has been taking her around showing her the area all week. Just the two of them.

I called about 2 weeks ago and asked her if there was anything between my hubby and her. (I was very respectful, just wanted to know the truth) She told me that she saw him as her little brother since she met him when he was 12 and her brother and my husband are best friends. I completely believed her because she was my friend before I even met my husband. I just can't seem to exorcise the green-eyed monster. I am seriously going nutso here. Guess what I want to do? EAT!!!!!! I left to go to wal=mart at 8:30 tonight just so i could get out of the house and keep my mind busy. I am so hurt by this. Any and all advise would be greatly appreciated. I also need a word of encouragement to stay focused. I can pretty much eat whatever I want. I try not to but it gets so difficult when I am so gosh darn emotional. I have not gained and I have not lost in some time but it is only a matter of time before I do gain because the stuff I do eat is not what I would call healthy. Someone get me in control here, please.

I would have to say that I would have a hard time with that too. I think that is a bit insensitive of the both of them. And you said it has only been one week? I admit, I have male friends but if I seperated from my husband and was out running around with a guy a week later, I bet he would be asking me questions. You had every right to ask. I think the thing I would be looking at is why did I seperate from this person in the first place. Those reasons are the same whether he is running with someone or not. That does not change the problems. The one thing that you need to remember is that you could be doing the same thing. Look at you, you are beautiful, is he stupid or what? No matter what happens, you are one hot lady. You will have no problem finding a new, even better love. But the first thing you have to do is work on you. If he wants to be stupid and jump into something new without working on his issues then so be it. He will fail in whatever relationship he has. But you on the other had, if you work on your issues, when you do meet someone else, you will be ready. I know it is hard. But remember you are the better person here, dont eat and throw a party of food. Remember that you are a wonderful, bright, beautiful woman. If you hold your head up, he is going to see what he is missing. You may even decided you dont want him anymore. Now lets go over there and slap down that girl--- ha! kidding.

That is great. My husband and I got banded together on the 19th of Sept and Dr Ortiz was a hoot. I love that guy! I am glad you had a good experience. Keep us up to date on how you are doing.

So I have finished the liquid diet and had my first meal today and it was scarry to say the least. But what is more scarry is the scale is not moving. I am definately not eating anywhere near what I did, so can someone tell me how long until the scale moves again? I am at the weight I was at surgery. I know I have lost inches but no weight. This doesnt make sense to me. Does things start to change once you start eating because now your body can use that at energy. I wonder if when you are on the liquid diet if the body goes into starvation mode and that is why I didn't lose really anything. My total weight loss from the time I starting pre-op to now is 246-230 =16 pounds. To me that is not enough. I know this is all new and today is the first day that I have eatten, so maybe I dont understand all this but I really thought that I would have lost more. My husband has lost 33 pounds. I am so jelious. He looks great. I guess I just dont understand how this works, how did you all lose so much weight, or is it going to start happening for me now?

Well we went to breakfast and I have to say it was kinda scarry. I was eating and then I got this pressure in my chest so I stopped eating. Then about 10 minutes later, I felt almost hungry again. Does that mean I was full and now I am not. I dont understand. I ate one egg, a little hashbrowns and a little link sausage. Before we ate, we had coffee. I really dont know how to read this yet. But I stopped because I got nervous and let me tell you I wanted a drink so bad. So I sucked on an ice cube. I am used to drinking with my meals. This is going to be rough. Anyway, did I do this right, is that what is does when you are full? My husband ate more than me, he made me nervous, I thought he was going to throw up for sure but he didn't. I guess he has more room than me. Maybe he stretched out his pouch, I dont know if that is a good idea. I guess I really dont know what I am doing yet. Any ideas?

Thanks, we are planning our meal now. I can't wait. We will be taking it very slow.

Wow, what an incredible ride this has been. It has been pretty rough but hubby and I made it. We can finally have food. We are going to take it very slow. I think I may start with some soup with chunks in it. Real nervous about eating too much. I hope I will know when I am full. Hubby is pretty happy with his results so far. I think we may even get reimbursed from our medical account. It is only 2800 but I will take it, trust me, we need it. I hope we keep losing. I found out our fills will be 375.oo each under flouro so that is alot for both of us. I will have to use any money we get back for that. I got my pants on today without laying down so I know that I have lost weight. People say they can see it in my face. So I put some shots on here of my face. I think so, I think it will look better after another 10 more pounds. I look forward to more success. what a ride this has been so far. Thank goodness for this site. I dont think I would have made it. Thanks everyone.

Good Luck, let us know how you are doing. It should go well, they do excellent work over there. I wish I was in TJ right now, the weather here is cold. brrrrr.

Oh I thought you already had it done for some reason. Ok keep us up to date. We worry about you. They better take good care of you!!

Has anyone heard how the surgery went. I think he was having an uplift. Has anyone heard how he is doing? I am curious to see how he is doing with recovery and how the clinic was and how they treated him. That would be a tough once to go through. Just wanted to see if anyone has heard anything.