Awe, thanks everyone! He knows I had a miserable time in Park City because I wasn't in shape to really mountain bike with him, but I did make an effort and wasn't completely trying to sabotage the vacation. The day after we got home, he went on bike ride with his buddies and when he came home he showed up with get this, FLOWERS. It takes an act of a holiday or anniversary for him to show up with flowers.
Funny thing about all this, when I canceled my appointment, I've stayed on the pre-op diet just to get used to it and I have dropped 7 lbs.
OICU812, Thanks for the offer. I know he would feel better if he was able to talk to other men and maybe see other posts from men.
Thanks again everyone!