WOW!!! You and I have such a similar story. My husband and I are fighting about the whole weight issue. He has made it abundantly clear that the weight I have gained in the last years has been rough on him. (I cannot blame him, it was false advertising on my part) It was my idea to get the surgery, his idea to go to mexico. I want to lose the weight for me, don't get me wrong, but it is difficult for me to accept that he cannot accept me for me. HE now is rethinking the mexico thing because of the response of others who know about the surgery. I wish I would not have let anyone else know. I get banded on the 3rd of Sept, would love to hear from others who are going to be there around the same time I am. Thanks again for all the posts, it is what is reaffirming my decision.