Hi Paul,
So, welcome to the journey, the life as a banded person. This is a great place for you to come for support and ideas. So, here is my story. I had my WLS a month after my daughter and it has been the best thing I every did for myself...self care...me first...all new concepts for me, along with learning what that means for myself. Slow baby steps, each step a journey, each fill a journey. I am a very personal person and so I have not told anyone about my WLS other than my daughter who shares the journey and those on this forum, my WLS family. I did not want to have to go into details, explain my eating, feel like I am being watched, deal with saboteurs, you name it..so far this has been the best way to go for me and I am able to do this journey the way I want. I also live alone and eat out a lot...I am able to do this by ordering small meals, like salads, or appetizers as my main meal..I don't miss the bread and I even have a glass of wine. Tracking my food allows me to do this and maintain my weight loss. My weak area is exercise, which I have begun to work on! Good luck, we are here for you...