Well said, Dawn!
I can tell you that I stalled at nearly every ten pound loss. At first I would get frustrated, and, like you said, practically rub salt in my wounds by reading on here and another forum about folks running circles around me weight-loss wise. Finally it dawned on me that without the lapband, I would have been as big or bigger than I was when I started. I wasn't doing it on my own. Prior to the lapband, I never had plateaus in my weight loss. I would charge into it all fired up, lose whatever amount it was, remain there for what seems like 30 seconds, and then head right straight back upwards (using of course years and years of bad eating habits). One important thing I have noticed is that when I get "stalled" I realize that at least I can maintain a lower weight for a while. That was something I have never been able to do. I feel like I am in control even if the scale isn't moving as quickly as I want it too. You are in control, too. I feel for you that you have your mom kind of breathing down your neck, adding pressure to "succeed" at the lapband by comparing you to someone else. Do it your way, girl. You already are, and have done great. Someone here recently suggested to try picking up 10 pound bags of sugar to add up to the weight that you lost. Do that. Go to the store and pick up 4 of the 10 pound bags of sugar and see what it feels like. Then set them down and proceed to give yourself a huge pat on the back (I would say hug, but that would just look downright weird--haha). You will make your goal, your way!! Everyone here is rootin' for ya!!